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How to Give Yourself Permission for Self Love

In the last post we talked about filling ourselves up to overflowing and giving to others from our overflow.

If we’ve been continually giving and over-giving to others and putting others’ needs before our own, there is often a first step needed. It’s actually a mindset change, because we’ve been taught since we were little children to ask authority figures for permission for basically everything.

Yet, when it comes to self care and filling ourselves up, we’re the ones who need to give ourselves permission to take care of our needs first.

I’m sure many of you have flown on a plane and heard the safety spiel about putting our own oxygen mask on first and then helping children, the elderly and others around us. We need to do the same thing with self care and give ourselves permission to fill ourselves up. It’s a definite choice and decision we get and need to claim for ourselves.

How do we do this?


When I lead workshops or programs on self care/self love, I often start by having the participants design and sign their own permission slip. It’s a great way to allow ourselves to nurture our feminine, creative, playful side that can be neglected due to our busy lifestyles.

Creating Magical Permission Slips

  1. Materials needed: Colored or white paper, unlined is best. Markers, crayons, or colored pens. Fun extras: Glitter glue tubes or sticks, Stickers, Stamps/stamp pad
  2. Decide on the size of your permission slip: It can be a whole sheet, 8 and 1/2 x 11 or smaller if you like.
  3. Select the Title you’d like to use for your permission slip:

    Permission to __________________ Some examples to use to fill in the blank are (Do Self Care, Fill Myself Up to Overflowing, Nurture Myself First, Give to Myself, Love Myself). You can also make yourself a specific type of Permission Slip, for example to: Take a Nap, Meditate, Love your body, Forgive yourself, Be Kind to Yourself.

  4. Write yourself a permission slip describing what you authorize yourself to give yourself. You can include how often and any other details you like.
  5. Sign and date it.
  6. Once you’ve written the words on your slip, have fun decorating it.
  7. Post or frame your Permission Slip in a place where you’ll see it daily so you remember to do what you’ve consented to do for YOURSELF.

NOTE: Although I’d prefer you to take the time to create your own Permission Slip as it is a part of the process, if you’re super-duper busy, here’s a link where you can check out images of them: permission slip for women to do self care

I’d love to know how this tool and process works for you. So, please send me a pic of your slip or reply back to me and let me know.

Lastly, imagine feeling lighthearted, joyful and energized each day instead of feeling drained and weighed down by a ‘to do’ list longer than your arm. If you are an empath, intuitive, highly sensitive and used to giving to everyone else in your life, you can easily become overwhelmed, exhausted, burned out and unfulfilled. This doesn’t have to be the case, honest. Take it from someone who’s been there and done that and is now able to still be loving and caring, because I’ve learned how to give myself permission to take care of myself first.

I’m here for you and would love to support you with this – my calendar fills up quickly with these calls as I only have limited slots. So, be sure to email me at to request your FREE Joyful Change Breakthrough Session this week!


  1. Hi Catherine,
    I love this idea about making myself a permission slip to nurture myself or take time for myself! I actually did give myself permission, yesterday, to relax and close my eyes in the middle of the afternoon. I will follow this idea you give us ~ thanks so much.

    • Catherine says:

      Hi Sue,

      That’s awesome. So glad you like it and that you plan to do it for you’re the only one who can. I love how you gave yourself permission yesterday to close your eyes and relax in the middle of the day. Even those few minutes are important. Blessings, Catherine

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